How to Handle Criticism ………….

Criticism is certainly not easy to handle… esp for men who have an ego ….. (do I have one, I guess yes)… so first let us understand what is ego …

Ego in simpler definition is your own opinion about yourself… u feel you r always right …. People say you have ego….. then what is it self esteem ?…. Are they same ?
No the line between ego and self esteem is thin but yes they are distinctively different !!!!

Due to ego we prefer to shun whenever any one says anythin bad @ us… or criticize us … we react at it….. we deny the very presence of faults in us…

So what should we do ???? how do we train or condition our mind to accept criticism …. Perhaps solution lies in following way

Think you are standing in front of mirror ….. what ever is truth the mirror shows u…. I cannot be Tom Cruise when I look at myself in the mirror, I will still be Miresh only… similarly if some one criticizes, think u are standing in front of the mirror ….. yes yes easy to say but difficult to implement (Ask my wife n she will vouch for this, even in her sleep)

Yes, I do have trouble listening to criticism, I get defensive or I get over aggressive, I try to justify my act , I don’t listen to what people are saying !!!

So the second thing one needs to do is “Be a Good Listener”… keep listening, keep listening b’cos not only it helps u to handle criticism but it also helps you to build your patience.

Listener ….. Be receptive not reactive

Third is be receptive to what you hear… but don’t be reactive , the issue is, when there is any act we react to that and then people feel you are not receptive or open to new ideas and both end up fighting or sulking ……..

Three things three rules ….and perhaps you will turn into a new person…. So here it is... I have committed to myself to do all this….. and yes I will succeed !!!!